That I wish I knew from the beginning
Belief! Give your partner the benefit of the doubt. Assume that they are always attempting to do their best. A shift from criticism to belief will project positivity into their psyche, which helps to build a confident relationship outlook now and in the future.
Say thank you! Tell them how much you appreciate the things they do. Don’t overlook the importance of gratitude within your relationship. A simple thank you will go a long way. Look out for small things you can appreciate about each other and articulate them.
Create a culture of appreciation.
Listen longer. Respect is a demonstration of listening longer. Listen to their venting but don’t try and solve it. Let them vent without judgement and losing your patience.
Touch each other. I can hear your inner monologue now, you’re probably saying “well DUH Ashleigh! This one is obvious!”. I am not talking about sex, although sex is a very important part of a relationship!
The touch I am speaking of is the little gestures of affection that when we get busy, dwindle away. We snuggle our babies so much, we often forget about our partners need for physical contact. Many simple acts of touch and affection over time will help solidify long term intimacy within your relationship.
Kiss her goodbye. Hold his hand.
Verbally acknowledge each others stress, because it is very real. Your validation will help your partner to work through and overcome it. When you listen to and acknowledge each others stress, it helps the other person feel cared for and supported.